More Words from Aunt MSW

Good grief - enough to make YOU crazy. With my Social Work hat on I would wonder whether Mr S is taking his MH meds at all - or taking them as he wants to rather than how they are prescribed - or is drinking the cause of the rapid swing. He does not need to appear intoxicated (as he was when you moved) to be drinking enough to have an impact. The mood swings are pretty extreme - in just a matter of hours from one end of the spectrum to the other and both Sunday and Tuesday/Wednesday.

I find it fascinating that Mr S would even consider letting you near his therapist - with the chance that the "poor misunderstood Mr S" that he may present would become a little less real. And where is that therapist anyway? Mr S' behavior has becomes more and more irrational and the mood swings more extreme. Has Saul (his therapist) not noticed - or been concerned about the problems this may pose for Mr S in the "real world". Glad Saul can "manage" him - but he does not live with Mr S. The 50 minute hour is not "real world". Sorry my bias is showing.

If you were to continue therapy as a couple - finding another therapist - maybe a male - could be a good move. The very best therapist may not be the right match for lots of reasons.

I hope you have gone ahead with your effort to consult an attorney about a legal separation. Mr S is a loooooooong way from being stable. You and DS need a stable plan given that you need to see evidence over time – and that is months - to see whether Mr S can do what he needs to do to stabilize his mental health.